ST Feb 28, 2006Mr Wang feels somewhat sad to read that the risk factors for divorce include "the arrival of a baby when a couple are unprepared for parenthood". Actually Mr Wang believes that you can never really be prepared for parenthood beforehand. It's like learning to swim. It's a lot of fun, but you DO have to get into the water first.
First big study of divorces here spotlights risk factors
By Theresa Tan
THE Government is promoting programmes to strengthen marriages, after the first large-scale study of divorces here put its finger on what made unions work or fall apart.
The study of more than 1,700 divorcees and about 1,900 married respondents raised the same red flags that had been waved by marriage counsellors for years.
The risk factors include a hasty courtship, long hours spent at work and away from one's spouse, and the arrival of a baby when a couple are unprepared for parenthood.
Sociologist Paulin Straughan, who completed the study last year, told The Straits Times: 'You can't just tie the knot and then go through daily life without conscientiously working on improving spousal relations and expect your marriage to last.'
The Ministry of Community Development, Youth and Sports (MCYS) commissioned the study to find out what factors kept couples together and what tore them apart.
It is now working with its community partners to get couples to attend marriage education programmes ......
The study found that couples were more likely to break up if they:
* married because of family pressure or to get a flat.
* were unhappy with their spouse's long working hours.
* were not prepared for marriage.
* had no children.
Seven in 10 divorcees blamed their marriage breakdowns on poor communication ... For a third of the divorcees surveyed, adultery was the final straw which led to the marital breakdown.
Humans are just an unnecessarily complicated species, that's all."